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A Reflection on Marriage by Andrew Lyke
In Honor of the 50th Wedding Anniversary of Nicolas & Teresa Silva
July 27, 2024
We are here to celebrate a great milestone: 50 years of marriage.
We are here to celebrate the promises made and promises kept and the promise that Teresa and Nick found in each other. Two people with promise who found promise in each other. So, they took the risk of making the promises to have and to hold from that day in the summer of 1974, to honor and cherish, for better or worse, rich or poor, in sickness and in health, as long as they both shall live. . . .
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This presentation is from the homily by Andrew Lyke at St. Katharine Drexel Catholic Church in Chicago on Grandparents Day, Sunday, July 28, 2024.
I love the assignment given to me to talk about grandparenting, a topic close to my heart. Terri and I are the grandparents of six grandchildren (I call them grand-blessings): three girls and three boys. The oldest is 14 and the youngest 5. Charlotte’s birth in 2010 established a new generation in our family, and Terri and I entered a new stage of life. We felt as though we owed apologies to our friends who had already entered grandparenthood—apologies for judging them. “All they want to talk about are their grandkids” was what we often had said or thought after being with those friends. Finally, we got it. We understood the overwhelming love that wells up in us for the children of our children. And our phones have been loaded with photos of those grand-blessings ever since. . . .
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A reflection by Andrew Lyke on a dynamic, unique parish on the East Side of Joliet, Illinois, on it's closing
July 10, 2024
It was in the spring of 2007. I was wrapping up a day of work at the Pastoral Center of the Archdiocese of Chicago, where I was the Coordinator of Marriage Ministry. I got a call from my friend and colleague, Jim Healy, the Director of Family life Ministry in the neighboring Joliet Diocese. Jim asked if I would be available and willing that evening to come to Sacred Heart Church in Joliet to consult at a meeting about a new marriage ministry at the parish. . . .
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The following text is from the Men’s Coalition Prayer Breakfast on Saturday, June 15, 2024, at Our Lady of Africa Catholic Church in Chicago, Illinois. The Keynote presenter was Andrew Lyke
Good morning, Men of God!
It is my honor to be your keynoter for this prayer breakfast. It is always good to be back at home at the place where I first learned about God. I grew up just a few blocks north of here. Holy Angels was very much a second home for me, an aspiring pre-adolescent raptured by the ecclesial sounds and smells of the sanctuary. Inspired by parish priests, Frs. Howie Tuite, Dick Wheatly, Owen McAteer, and Les Mollohan, I could envision my life as a priest.
February 29, 2024
I believe that we all are called by God to be a part of the force for good in the world. That invitation from God comes to us in varied ways. Without having a relationship with God—a prayer life, it can be easy to miss God’s call. Some of us have profound encounters, like Paul on the road to Damascus getting knocked to the ground (Acts 22:6-7). For most of us, God’s call is more subtle. In significant life events, the birth of a child, the death of a loved one, suffering disease, the experience of being loved by another, being forgiven by someone harmed by our actions, and countless other ways, God invites us into a communion of love and reconciliation. It’s from God’s initiative that we are tapped to “Come, follow me” (Luke 18:22; Matthew 16:24; Mark 1:17; Luke 9:23). . . .
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A Personal reflection by Andrew Lyke
May 1, 2023
I’m in my 71st year of life. I’m old; I like it; and I hope to get older. It’s a new season of life that I’m in now, and it comes with challenges and superpowers I didn’t have before. Among the challenges are the expected issues that come with aging, such as memory loss, physical deterioration (vision, hearing, muscle tone, etc.), perennial aches and pains, living on a fixed income, memory loss (did I say that already?), and the increasing pace of the lapse of time. . . .
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February 5, 2022
In this week’s Gospel (Luke 5:1-11) we hear about how Jesus invited the first disciples to follow him in his campaign to tell others about the love of God. We who have worked in and for the Church have cited this text and its message about catching people as inspiration for the work of evangelization, to spread the Word—the “Good News” about Jesus, the Son of God, and His mission of love. . . .
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November 30, 2020
To my white Catholic brothers and sisters:
As a Black “cradle Catholic” who is highly engaged in the church, I have been driven into deep reflection and prayer by the events of the past several months in the midst of the Covid-19 pandemic: the taking of the innocent Black lives of Breonna Taylor, Ahmaud Arbery and George Floyd and the shooting of Jacob Blake by Kenosha police. . . .
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Sts. Priscilla and Aquila are historical figures of the Early Church. They were a couple—a married couple whose names pop up several times in the Acts of the Apostles and Pauline Scriptures. We identify with them because they were married, as tentmakers they worked together, and they had a couple identity that transcended who they were individually. When you think of one you think of the other, too. Acts 18 mentions that when Paul traveled from Athens to Corinth, he stayed with them. They were hospitable. We see ourselves in these biblical personalities. We especially like that they project an extraordinary image of egalitarianism, in that the several times they are mentioned, Priscilla’s name is most often before Aquila’s, which is extraordinary when you consider the role of women in 1st Century Palestine. . . .
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John 19:28-30
After this, aware that everything was now finished, in order that the scripture might be fulfilled, Jesus said, “I thirst.” There was a vessel filled with common wine. So, they put a sponge soaked in wine on a sprig of hyssop and put it up to his mouth. When Jesus had taken the wine, he said, “It is finished.” And bowing his head, he handed over the spirit. . .
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May 3, 2000
The family is a system, an organization with rules, goals, purpose, leadership and conflict. Like business organizations, conflict must be handled so that the organization doesn’t lose sight of its goals and stray from its purpose. Conflict that escalates to violence is clearly out of bounds in organizations. Rules of engagement and civil laws protect organizations from violence. However, when violence erupts in the family, the basic unit of society, those protections aren’t nearly enough. Families need deeper healing and faith for restoration and renewal. They need God. . . .
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April 19, 2000
Racism is a major obstacle to our Christian community. The U.S. Bishops issued a statement in 1979, Brothers and Sisters to Us, that unequivocally denounced racism as a sin. More recently the Bishops of Illinois issued a pastoral letter titled Moving Beyond Racism: Learning to see with the eyes of Christ in which they express their "desire to proclaim the Gospel of Jesus Christ by speaking to a grave personal and social evil: the sin of racism." At the highest level of the Church in America, we continue to address this serious social illness that impedes the Reign of God at work in our hearts. Yet, we still struggle twenty years after the Bishops' definitive statement to U.S. Catholics. . . .
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Less than two years after our wedding, Terri and I moved from urban Chicago to a community in the urban area’s western suburbs. That was in 1977.
Our townhouse was in a quaint subdivision of mostly young professionals, with few people of color. And the Catholic parish in the area seemed unwelcoming. The parishioners wouldn’t give us eye contact. When our eyes met, theirs quickly turned away, as though they wanted us to be invisible. . . .
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December 17, 2000
When we got married in 1975 we thought we had all we needed to make our marriage work. Because we had dated for six years and shared with each other our deepest, most fragile parts of ourselves, we believed that we were well suited for each other and prepared for marriage. Getting married was the ultimate expression of our love for each other. . . .
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August 21, 2003
The term “just friends” connotes a less valued, less serious affair when applied to the relationship between a man and woman. When that relationship progresses into a more meaningful, romantic state, it is described as “more than just friends.” Ironically, as reported by many committed marriages, it is their ability to be friends that makes the relationship last. Above all other aspects of their relationships, successful couples cite friendship as the key to lifelong committed marriages. . . .
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September 5, 2002
Over the years we have ministered to literally thousands of couples preparing for marriage. Most of them have great optimism for their life together. Their dreams of the future, at the marriage preparation stage of their relationship, seem most promising. Their decision to marry stems from those promising prospects. So, when they promise to each other “in good times and bad, for better and for worse,” they only know and dream of the good times. To face the unknown “bad times” of their future, they need an abiding faith and openness to “Thy will be done.” . . .
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